To Single Mom's and Women Who Feel Alone

I'm thinking about what to post here...I could do a part one and part two. I could take off my self-wallowing shoes at the door and enter in as a nice guest and leave with encouraging words. I could just vent it all out and screw the nice guest part.

Whatever I choose, I need to just get some stuff out. And that is part of what this blog is for.

First of all, I want to give a full gun salute and a rendition of "Taps" to the quiet end of T's blog. T, you were open and raw. You exposed and expressed yourself. You shared who you are and what you were working through with so many of us. Thank you. You will be missed.

After saying that, I will start with the "nice guest" post and see where it leads from there...

To anyone who has known how it feels to be so utterly alone, isolated, like you feel that nothing and no one can comprehend where you are at...you are not alone.

To any woman who has had the modern-day version of the scarlet letter painted on you...again and again...even by people whom you trusted and never thought would treat you in that way...you are not alone.

To any woman crying out to be loved just for who you f**king are, and not for the girl that they wish you were...you are not alone.

To any woman who has had her heart broken more times than you thought humanly possible...you are not alone.

To the woman who has children by more than one relationship and *knows* the real story behind the story, and who knows that you are not some white-trash whore, but feels like you are treated that way all the same...you are not alone.

To the women who don't know how to even begin a conversation with the other mom's who are married, and who talk about remodeling their bathrooms, or how their husband's snore so loudly, or how their new purebred needs $200 in medicine, and how sometimes you just want to laugh at the absurdity of it all, but you can't because you really just want to have some other female/mom friends, but you can't discuss your crazy ex in polite conversation...you are not alone.

To the women who wish that they could just once--just ONCE--call their dad and say, "Daddy, I liked a boy and he really hurt me!"...you are not alone.

To any woman who feels like the man that you *finally* learned how to trust, after all that has happened with other males, has betrayed you and left you, and you are now alone again without the person who became your closest friend, your companion, your lover...you are not alone.

To anyone who longs to be held and comforted in the arms of someone safe, someone who will not leave, someone who will not judge, someone who will bring you some sense of peace...you are not alone.

To the single mom's who are just so f**cking TIRED and want a break from life...you are not alone.

To the women who left abusers and/or crazy exes and STILL have to deal with them on a regular basis, and who cry out for mercy and freedom from it all...you are not alone.

To the women who left abusers and/or crazy exes AND YET are blamed by others for the situation you are in, which leaves you in almost more shock and pain than when you left the abuse...you are not alone.

To the single mom's who are taken to court over and over and over again by the abusive/crazy ex, when all you want is to be left alone in peace and to live your life with your children...you are not alone.

To the women who are living in poverty, especially while their abusive exes swim in excess and financial plenty, and who manage to steal from you constantly...you are not alone.

To the single mom's who frequently must exchange your child(ren) and leave them with the very person who harmed you and you know what they can or will do to your child(ren), yet you are forced to let this unsafe person take your child and it tears you up inside every single time, to the point where you feel like your heart is literally in shreds...you are not alone.

To anyone who has cried tears of pain, grief and sorrow for what feels like decades, on your knees on the floor, in your bed in the fetal position...you are not alone.

To anyone who does not have family who is there for you and it hurts like hell that they aren't but you wish for it anyway...you are not alone.

To any woman who knows that she is valuable and worthy of respect and dignity and honor and of being cherished...even when it feels like almost all the males in her life have shown and taught her the opposite...

Here's to you. Believe that you are loved. Believe that you are not all that others say that you are when they devalue you. Believe that you belong to some ONE. Believe that you can be held and cradled in the arms of some ONE who knows everything that has happened to you. Believe that whomever just abandoned you...that they have no concept of your true worth.

Know that you are not alone, even when that is all that you DO feel.

May you know Grace and Mercy and Peace and Comfort.

May you know Real and Neverending LOVE.